Universally, here are 10 arguments
that are most frequently heard and
described about the “debate”
between the LGBT community and
the church. The discussion between
the two can be stretched across
four broad categories.
Where Do You Stand?
1. Homosexual orientation does not exist.
a. All humans are heterosexual and homosexuals are either deluded or willfully perverted.
b. There is no such thing as fixed orientation.
There is no essential sexual identity (as heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual), but “experimentation” or “discovery” are terms preferred to describe sexual behaviors.
c. Homosexual sex is not sex.
It does not have the possibility of being procreative.
2. Homosexual orientation exists but homosexual behavior is wrong.
a. The Bible regards homosexual behavior as idolatrous and disruptive of the created good of marriage.
The Bible stresses the positive dimensions of marriage as the formation of one flesh between male and female.
b. Natural law insists sexual intercourse must serve its created purpose: to reproduce.
3. Homosexual orientation exists but homosexual behavior is a lesser good (often under the label of “tolerance”).
a. This view expresses ambivalence concerning homosexuality itself, but certainty that, in relation to other issues facing the church and the world, the question is of relatively minor importance.
b. This view recognizes the changing social climate and the assumption that sexual relationships are much more closely connected to personal fulfillment and expression than once was normal. It points out that many other aspects of life, such as the eating of meat, might not fit comfortably into an ideal Christian lifestyle, but seem to fit reasonably comfortably into a pragmatic ethic.
4. Homosexual orientation and behavior are good – as good as heterosexual orientation and behavior.
a. Homosexuality is a good to be expressed in a marriage resembling a heterosexual marriage.
This assumes “if God created people to be gay (or lesbian), they must have a purpose congruent with the rest of what God has created: and that must be to join the chorus returning the gifts of creation to God in praise, restoring the broken and seeking out the lost. Marriage is the way in which this is done in a domestic setting.
b. Homosexuality is a good to be expressed physically in an exclusive friendship.
This view tends to see marriage as a heterosexual phenomenon (for the procreational dimension) and to seek to develop an understanding of friendship that can expand to include intimate, permanent and exclusive gay and lesbian partnerships.
c. Homosexuality is a good to be expressed in a new form of relationship.
This view seeks to adopt a model that might include impermanent relationships, partners of more than one gender at different stages of life, and even “open” relationships where conventional fidelity is not expected.
Now, reflect on where you stand on this “debate.” Notice how it makes you feel. Now think about sharing that argument you stand for with someone in the church. What do they say to you about it? Do they agree? Lastly, think about sharing that same argument to someone outside the church, maybe someone that actually is homosexual. How do you think it makes them feel? God tells us to love Him, but He also tells us to love each other. If I told someone, who was homosexual, that I thought they were “perverted”, do you think God would be proud of me? I think not. I’m sure you can figure out where I stand on these four categories.
After reading this post, please reflect on how maybe your church views and talks about homosexuality and the LGBT Community. Figure out where you stand on this argument. And decide for yourself whether it glorifies God and serves for the good of His people.
For more information on these 10 arguments, check out
Samuel Wells and Ben Quash’s Introducing Christian Ethics.
Remember you are loved, forever and always.
Love, No Mistake